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When my wife counsels with people before marriage, she always says:  “Remember that when you get married, you will wake up next to this person every morning for the rest of your life.  It will be the first thing you see every morning.  Are you sure that this is the face you want to see?”

This is a very important question, and it seems as if you have already answered the question yourself.   It may seem very shallow to look at a face and doubt, but men are mainly stimulated visually.  However, she obviously accepts and loves you even although you are not perfect, but if you are unable to get past the way she looks, then please do not commit to marrying her.  She would be better off with someone who loves her just the way she is.

You say that you “love each other unconditionally”, which is obviously not true, at least from your side.  You also mention all the good things that you have together; have you considered that she may be the special one that God has given you, and that He can enable you to love her without any reservations.  You are obviously both Christians, so you know that God hates divorce, so when you marry it should be without the option of divorce.  If there is any doubt in your mind, do not marry.  Sort out your doubts, and make sure that you discuss this with God, so He can help you with your decision.

Matthew 5     ³¹ “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ ³² But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.

In a case like this, only you can make the final decision.  I can help to try and clarify your thinking, but in the end, you decide.  The most important thing is that you talk it through with God.  Without His blessing and His presence in the centre of your marriage, you have no chance of a lasting, blessed marriage.  God bless as you make your decision!

Ephesians 5     ²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, ²⁶ that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, ²⁷ that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. ²⁸ So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. ²⁹ For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.